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The following 10 Guidelines are from a 1950's Home Economics textbook
 intended for High School girls, teaching on how to prepare for married
 life. Along with each of the 1950ís guide is the updated 90ís version!
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 1. Have dinner ready: Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a
 delicious meal - on time. This is a way of letting him know that you
 have been thinking about him, and are concerned about his needs. Most
 men are hungry when they come home and the prospects of a good meal are
 part of the warm welcome needed.

 90ís Version: Have dinner ready: Make reservations ahead of time. If
 your day becomes too hectic just leave him a voice mail message
 regarding where you'd like to eat and at what time. This lets him know
 that your day has been crappy and gives him an opportunity to change
 your mood.
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 2. Prepare yourself: Take 15 minutes to rest so you will be refreshed
 when he arrives. Touch up your make-up, put a ribbon in your hair and be
 fresh looking. He has just been with a lot of work-weary people. Be a
 little gay and a little more interesting. His boring day may need a
 lift.

 90ís Version:  Prepare yourself: A quick stop at the "LANCOME" counter
 on your way home will do wonders for your outlook and will keep you from
 becoming irritated every time he belches at the table. (Don't forget to
 use his credit card!)
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 3. Clear away the clutter. Make one last trip through the main part of
 the house just before your husband arrives, gathering up school books,
 toys, paper, etc. Then run a dust cloth over the tables. Your husband
 will feel he has reached a haven of rest and order, and it will give you
 a lift too.

 90ís Version: Clear away the clutter: Call the housekeeper and let her
 know you'll need her for an extra day this week. Tell her that any
 miscellaneous items left on the floor by the children can be placed in
 the Goodwill box in the garage.
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 4. Prepare the children: Take a few minutes to wash the children's hands
 and faces if they are small, comb their hair, and if necessary, change
 their clothes. They are little treasures and he would like to see them
 playing the part.

 90ís Version: Prepare the children: Drop them off at grandma's!
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 5. Minimize the noise: At the time of his arrival, eliminate all noise
 of washer, dryer, dishwasher, or vacuum. Try to encourage the children
 to be quiet. Be happy to see him. Greet him with a warm smile and be
 glad to see him.

 90ís Version: Minimize the noise: When he arrives at home remind him
 that the washer and garbage disposal are still not working properly and
 the noise is driving you crazy (but do this in a nice way and greet him
 with a warm smile...this way he might fix it faster).
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 6. Some DON'TS: Don't greet him with problems or complaints. Don't
 complain if he's late for dinner. Count this as minor compared with what
 he might have gone through that day.

 90ís Version: Some DON'TS: Don't greet him with problems and complaints.

 Let him speak first, and then your complaints will get more attention
 and remain fresh in his mind throughout dinner. Don't complain if he's
 late for dinner. Simply remind him that the last one home does the
 cooking and the clean-up.
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 7. Make him comfortable: Have him lean back in a comfortable chair or
 suggest he lie down in the bedroom. Have a cool or warm drink ready for
 him. Arrange his pillow and offer to take off his shoes. Speak in a low,
 soft, soothing and pleasant voice. Allow him to relax and unwind.

 90ís Version: Make him comfortable: Remind him where he can find a warm
 fuzzy blanket if he's cold. This will show him that you really care.
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 8.  Listen to him: You may have a dozen things to tell him, but the
 moment of his arrival is not the time. Let him talk first.

 90 Version: Listen to him: But don't ever let him get the last word.
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 9. Make the evening his: Never complain if he does not take you out to
 dinner or to other places of entertainment; instead try to understand
 his world of strain and pressure and his need to be home and relax.

 90ís Version: Make the evening his: a chance to get the washer and
 garbage disposal fixed.
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 10. The Goal: Try to make your home a place of peace and order where
 your husband can relax.

 90ís Version:  To try to keep things amicable without reminding him that
 you make more money than he does.
 

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